Two of life's hardest challenges are , 1) having to alter your expectations about people, plans, feelings and 2) finding wisdom from heartbreak .
We encounter these challenges day after day and sometimes we come to a deep realization about life and create a new path, learn a lesson and soak ourselves in the experience of the challenge but other times we simply forget the heartbreak and let ourselves be dragged into the same black hole as we tell life, " Hit me again- I didn't learn the first time".
Why do we only collect the facts that will support our biases about the world we live in and create defense mechanisms to defend ourselves from the truth? Maybe it's their (the defense mechanisms) fault that sometimes we have to encounter the same lesson two, three, or four times before we can squeeze just enough information to not have to revisit the challange again.
I have a bad tendency of creating these high expectations about the people I surround myself with. Maybe it's because I like to always think positively and see the good in people. I often think of others before I think of myself and I often find myself pushing, motivating. encouraging others more frequently than I try to push myself. A dear person once told me... " Perhaps we all give the best of our hearts uncritically, to those who hardly think of us in return."
So which route are we suppose to take when we are forced to alter our expectations about life? Do we just take it for what it is, learn and move on or are we suppose to put up our guard and remind ourselves that people will continue to disappoint you time and time again.
